interesting death bed confessions... with all this talk of earning top mba degrees so we can work 80-hr work weeks it almost seems like it's all in vain.http://lifehacker.com/5904390/add-these-five-commands-to-the-top-of-your-to+do-list-avoid-the-most-common-deathbed-regrets
Palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware published a list of the five most common regrets of dying patients in her care. Blogger, developer, and entrepreneur Paul Graham took the list to heart, adding the following five commands to the top of his to-do list:
*Don't ignore your dreams; don't work too much; say what you think; cultivate friendships; be happy.
We've actually mentioned Ware's list before; Graham's commands are simply inverted versions of these regrets:
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
I wish that I had let myself be happier.
The idea, of course, is that Graham's commands will remind him to avoid these outcomes. As Graham puts it:
The alarming thing is, the mistakes that produce these regrets are all errors of omission. You forget your dreams, ignore your family, suppress your feelings, neglect your friends, and forget to be happy. Errors of omission are a particularly dangerous type of mistake, because you make them by default.
I would like to avoid making these mistakes. But how do you avoid mistakes you make by default? Ideally you transform your life so it has other defaults. But it may not be possible to do that completely. As long as these mistakes happen by default, you probably have to be reminded not to make them.
Designer and blogger Alice Lee took a slightly different approach, turning Graham's to-do list of commands into desktop wallpapers, like the one you see above (you can download the wallpapers in any format on Lee's post).
Regrets of the Dying | Bronnie Ware