get engaged before bschool?

Be like me. Don't think about it, and hope the problem goes away JK

But some people are right though. If your relationship can't handle a few hours a part for 2 years, then it probably can't handle the next 20 years. I think if you can make it over this big hump, then you're golden.

Now this is where my head is at! 15K ring on top of other debt and minimal/no income. Yuck.

If she moves with me, she gets a ring (and she pays the bills while I'm in school.) She don't move, she gets NADA!

I had no trouble with the relationship angle in school. In fact, it was better than when I was working because I was actually home more often than before. There were periods when things got stressed to be sure - namely recruiting - or the week or two before finals - but otherwise, its been a real easy life.

sure...for those living in the same city

I think it would depend on a lot of things, may be talk to her on what she wants !!
I voted yes!

dont know if youve made a decision yet...but if she is worth it, and your relation is worth it, what is two years of difficulty when compared to a lifetime of being together?

go for it if you see yourself with her regardless of school....if you have doubts, then dont...

I am in a similar situation and with me matriculating at Duke & girlfriend at Charlotte (1 hr 50 mins drive), it was an easy decision for me. I'm getting engaged.

If you are sure that she is the one for you (irrespective of where you goto school) then do it. If you are not sure yet, then no matter where you goto school, don't do it now. Thats my 2 cents. Whether, when and where you goto school should not drive such the timing of such life decisions.

If you can't see yourself being with anyone else for the rest of your life, go for it. I would say finding your life partner is much much harder than finding a good job.

I didn't get the benefit of a choice (to propose right before b-school) since I proposed to my fiancee before I started the application process; but I am very happy with my choice. She was very supportive and traveled with me to schools when she could. This was great because she noticed some things about schools that I didn't pick up. She also provided some good feedback for my essays, but occasionally I had to reject some of her ideas.

We're both excited to move to NYC after we marry next month. She understands it's going to be tough since I'm the breadwinner; yet, she's been very supportive about this too. I think the most important thing is that we really want to spend the rest of our lives together and start a family after b-school, so it doesn't matter where we are, if we're broke for 2 years, or if I'm going to be extremely busy (especially if I choose to do IB).

If I had to choose to propose to her now with the knowledge that I'm going to b-school, I would still do it. This is the most important question you have to ask yourself: would the two of you want to be together regardless of the circumstances?

An event such as bschool or anything else for that matter shouldn't trigger a proposal. When you are ready you are ready. Plain and simple. If its before, during or after bschool then so be it. You will know when the time is right and thats when you should do it.

I have heard it is a big test to make it through winter break your first year. if you can make it through still together then pop the q!

i think a lot of it can also depend on what your pre-MBA schedules were like. My wife and I started dating when I was starting off in banking and living in a different state. She got used to going up to a few weeks without seeing me or having to deal with me when I was stressed out. I also got used to doing little things to make sure that the relationship wasnt completely one sided (objectively evaluating her side before running my mouth, trekking out to jersey even if i was tired so that she wasnt always the one traveling, putting important dates into my calendar and pulling all nighters to ensure that work wouldnt interfere, etc). Over the years, my schedule has remained pretty sh*tty -there would be several week long stretches where I would leave before she woke up and would come back after she went to sleep. Her schedule has gotten worse as she has taken on more responsibility at work and we rarely overlap...days where Im home @ 6, she'll come home past 10. We got used to not setting unreasonable expectations for each other and maximizing our time together on the weekends. Im going to Yale, so I'm not expecting the 1.5 hr commute to really strain our relationship at all.