Gryphon wrote:
3) Recommenders screw you. They think they're doing you a favor, but your battalion commander's actually not the best person to write the kind of Rec these schools want to see for a military candidate.
I think that this really depends on the situation, and here's my thoughts on it:
The higher rank you are, normally your experience of writing recommendations for subordinates is quite extensive. Of course, MBA recommendations in particular are probably somewhat new to them, but you can avoid them screwing you over by providing some guidance on it. For example, I requested a brief 10-15 minute meeting with each of my recommenders separately, talked to them about my goals, and handed them a folder that consisted of my resume, test scores, all fitness reports, master brief sheet, and a copy of Stanford's guide for recommenders. For the commander whom I see almost on a daily basis but doesn't necessarily work with me at all times, I also provided a copy of all the recommendation questions along with some bullet points that I think he could talk about. I left the wording and picking for him to decide. Of course, you'll need to make it VERY clear that MBA programs don't want the standard recommendation letters that are basically templates saved and reused over and over again. Be courteous, and give them ideally 2 months. They probably won't start on it till the last week, but recommenders tend to feel guiltier the longer they sit on it. They'll make sure it reads well.
Also, at the high level ranks, the comparative assessment of your capabilities covers a bigger pool of peers. The letter becomes more compelling when you're the number one Captain out of hundreds he's worked with, rather than only out of fifteen. The library of fitness reports and Master brief sheet that you provide them should cover how well you rank among your peers. This is something that he can mention in questions like "how well does the applicant compare to his peers." For whatever reason, when I sat down and told my recommenders that I realize how large a commitment they will be making, they all smiled back and told me "this stuff is too easy." I was a bit doubtful at first, but I was really impressed when the O-6 later on showed me the letter he wrote on my behalf. I'm not quite sure if O-3 or even O-4's can really capture all the big picture stuff unless they are really eloquent individuals.