lindalibinbin wrote:
Nah, financial and job security are rarely what REALLY matters to a person, deep down. But I'm worried that if I dig deep and find out what really matters to me, it could be some personality trait that they don't like. For example, what if the answer is "so that everyone around me would approve of me", or "to spend time with my kids 24/7", or "I never want to fail". These might very well be what matters to certain people, but wouldn't convey the right msg - the first one would show deep down the person has no confidence, second one would show you probably won't go out and make impact in society, and third one would show... i don't know, not willing to take risk or something.
So, my questions is, if there's a conflict between what we think is the fundamental driving force of our actions and what we believe others would think of it, what do we do?
Oh I totally agree with your point, I was just having a bit of fun. But you do bring up a really good point, and something that I have been juggling in thinking about my essay as well. In this context what matters most to us has to align somewhat with what would make us an attractive candidate.
I think the things you mentioned though are not negative in and of themselves (although who am I too say I'm just another lost applicant). Your first suggestion I think would be nearly impossible to create an essay from that would "sell," though I imagine someone smarter than myself could do. BUT I think even writing about spending time with your kids, or the drive to succeed (the positive spin of not wanting to fail, I recognize that they are not exactly the same though) would actually be fine things to write about. I kind of get the feeling that the stories and motivations behind what is important to you matters much more than what the actual "thing" is. So if, say, having kids changed your life and you want to spend time with them as the most important thing, I actually think that would be an amazing topic to craft an essay around. Because that does actually imply that you will work hard to provide for them, and you could definitely also hint that it makes you an empathetic individual that will work hard but also aim to do good for others with kids and kids themselves...I think there exists definite possibilities!