Communicating with Schools?

I honestly feel that unless you have a really good reason to be contacting the schools, then you shouldn't. There are many people who probably send pointless emails to the schools and I'm sure the adcoms can see right through them.

It sounds like you probably need to rely on your essays and then your interview/visit to convey your enthusiasm. or maybe you could donate thousands of dollars. (that's a joke. they'd probably take your money and then reject your sorry self anyway.)

Could anyone chime in who has cultivated such a relationship during the application process?

I never reached out to any admission officers. Heck, I can't recollect a single name.

This might not be very profound but most schools are very willing to talk to you if you have genuine, non-obvious questions to ask them and you avoid the zenith of the admit season. After all, this is part of the job is applicant relations. I cannot stress the genuine idea enough. After speaking with enough applicants, the admissions staff get a pretty good idea of who has a serious interest in the school and who is putting on a show.

And that's the thing...i am really really really interested in a school but how do i present myself to them (through adcom communications/contacts) such that

1) i do not be a pest
2) i show that i have genuine interest in the school
3) i basically project myself in a positive light

in the same regard, i have another question (which nobody bothered to answer in my sperate post on the subject )

my school doesn't require me to send the TOEFL score (i am not a US citizen). But i have taken TOEFL and have got a respectable score. Should i send the score to my target school?

will it go on to show that i am really interested in the school and filling a gap in my application? ( i have an average AWA score of 4.5 with 95 percentile in GMAT verbal)

or will it be just an overkill?

and can/should i send a mail to adcom stating that i have taken TOEFL and have sent them (can send them) my scores. And that it is to fill a gap in my profile

Starting with the TOEFL matter, I think it is not necessary to send it. The TOEFL is effectively a pass/fail test of the applicant's basic communication skills in English. Based on your V score, in combination with the rest of your application, this should not be an issue.

One of the best ways to show that your interest is sincere/avoid becoming a pest is to learn about the school before speaking with the admissions staff. Answering questions that can easily be found on the website or in the brochure is a waste of time for both your and that of the admissions officer. If someone is sincerely interested in the school, I expect them to be able to express to me what interests them in the school.