bb wrote:
Good post BQ!
I can't talk about FOMO. I don't think I relate to that well
but leadership takes A LOT OF WORK!
In the movies it looks like you just inspire people and then they just follow you ready to do whatever they are commanded. I think that was my leadership style in the early stages of my life when I was thrown into a leadership role at a summer camp or just playing with kids on a playground. Surprisingly they did not want to obey my commands
. I thought it for sure would be different when I would be their boss running a business or something like that. Never happened...
My take is that to be an effective leader you have to be a people person. There are many styles obviously but it is the folks who take interest in others that seem to inspire the most. Be interested in others and in their needs and priorities (hopefully naturally) and you have to recognize others and give them credit and be a good listener and sense what people feel but don't say.... at least that's my opinion. There are many leadership styles and attributes but the most effective ones in my view seem to require a lot of work and a lot of prep.
I don't know how to solve these issues but if you could get the folks interested and on board about your project, hopefully they would feel compelled and involved and helpful rather than envious. It is tricky for sure and you can't please everyone and some folks are just uncooperative and only care about defending their turf and see everyone as an invader and you just have to minimize your exposure and appease them maybe?
I am trying to imagine and remember some of my challenges and failures (I am sure I had many). I think most of them were either due not getting enough support from my boss or misreading people or misreading the situation. A lot of it is a one-way streeet and hard to go back and restart esp if I screwed up and made a bad first impression but if you are serious about it, you keep trying again and again and improving (asking more questions, planning ahead of time, and understanding threats to your project). Not sure if you have done a Project Management course - I had the pleasure of doing one but threats to the project was one of the sides of it....
Not sure if this makes any sense but good you are busy
I do what I have learnt from my parents and even US government- Security to shackle- so basically the technique is to create a scenario where I care about their safety and not following through is a sabotage to their safety.
Also, I do know how to weaponise their feelings and use it, but truth be told I feel like a cheater when I do that. I tell myself that it is okay to do so in professional life but then people have done that to me in my personal life and I know that it makes me feel like a puppet.
Also, even after the inclusive approach to let them think that they are riding the vehicle and you're having the real steering (Just like Michael scott in the office on that Ship) people tend to figure that out at some point. I might need a 8-10 year long strategy for a really good way to deal with these challenges.
Also the thing you said about movie like Inspirational speech- Literally every marvel movie comes to mind lol. The villain becomes a hero after people give him a good speech and then he drops his weapon and everything is okay. Totally never happens,, I mean never ever has it happened.
Idk but even if you are a people person who knows how to manipulate others using their motivation, I might need something more. May be since I grew up without people around, I need to develop the tendency to gain those interpersonal skills. I was just too much in books as I was instructed to be the class topper.
Also, how did you know that I am a project manager? I guess the threats are common across the industries- at least the people related ones.
Have an expired PMP I think. I never understand how a person is a project manager for three years and then it expires! I mean come on, right?
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16 Jan 2021, 14:13
