The question about what other schools I applied to bothers me a little, because I worry that they're using my choices to strategize about whether I'm likely to attend their school... but it's not a huge deal. I confess that I am especially irritated by questions about my parents' backgrounds.
At the most, if the school is interested in knowing whether I have a connection to their program, they should do the same thing that they do with siblings and significant others: A yes-or-no question like, "Did either of your parents attend [School Name]?"
Even so, I kind of hate the idea of legacy. (You are going to tell me that legacy is not the
only reason that schools ask these questions, that it's really important to them to build a sense of community and accept people who have good "fit" and so on. That's fine. I accept that. But let's accept legacy for the weird and yucky factor that it, too, plays in admissions decisions.) And I can't imagine the use of knowing anything more than whether my parents went to the school to which I am applying. Why do you want to know specifically where? What assumptions are you making? My parents might have gotten advanced degrees in their developing nation -- that doesn't mean they're ballin'. They could be cabbies or cashiers here.
And I guess it's interesting to know what they do... but it shouldn't matter except
maybe insofar as it has affected my opportunities. I guess if your daddy is a senator and my daddy is a used car salesman, you've probably had more access to education and opportunity than I have; so my trajectory may seem more impressive. But what if my daddy's a used car salesman because he recently got laid off at his high-powered corporate job for embezzlement or something? And if my parents never graduated high school, it's certainly cool that I've made it all the way to grad school, but if it's relevant and I have any sense I'll be writing about that in my essays anyway...
I suppose something about these types of questions just rubs me the wrong way. Something that has echoes of ... influence-mongering, politicking, nepotism. I don't mean to hijack the thread, so: rant
(more-or-less) over.