There's one thing about big SUVs that nobody has mentioned yet, but anyone who has lived around LA or SF or somewhere with really bad traffic will really appreciate this fact. when you are in dense traffic, driving in a huge SUV is exponentially more relaxing than driving in other cars. It can make a huge difference in your personal stress level and sanity if you have to commute an hour or even more each way every single day.
I really like cars, and I have owned lots, including BMW & Lexus sports sedans, 2 V8 Mustangs and several different SUVs. I've had auto and manual transmissions and even a couple of motorcycles. I currently drive a Porsche and I just gave up my Toyota Sequoia in preparation for heading off to school. I have commuted in both LA and SF. I can tell you from experience that it is much more relaxing to drive in dense traffic if you can see over everything else.
I love sports cars, but in stop-and-go traffic, the large cabin area of a big SUV makes a huge difference. Trust me, you feel 100% different after driving for an hour in traffic. In my Porsche, stress levels just build because the car wants to run. In a big SUV, you just sit back, understand that it will be an hour of stop-and-go, and it's just a lot more pleasant. Being able to see over everything feels much better than feeling surrounded on all sides, as you would in a smaller caller. There's no doubt that more space in the cabin is just plain nicer if you're more or less just sitting around waiting for traffic to move. When you think about it, most of the bigger SUVs are not replacements for 4x4 trucks because 95% of them never go off-road - they are taking the place of large sedans as a more comfortable way to get around.
So, if I ever have a job where I must regularly commute in heavy traffic each day, I will almost certainly do it in a big truck. Nothing beats a sports car (especially a convertible) on the open road. But in thick heavy traffic, there's no comparison. Personally, I don't believe the little car-based SUVs like the RAV4 and the Escape fit this purpose, but the slightly elevated seating and additional room (compared with a smaller car) is probably a little nicer.