died4me, I am in your position, except that we want to buy in Durham. It's all about finding the right house on the right street.
Rhyme - the problem with your plan, as alluded to by others, is that if you're relocating, it ain't gonna work. Most mortgages require owner occupancy. if you're approved based on your work in Boston, but are trying to buy in Chicago, the lenders are going to figure it out.
Here's our situation:
1. Stellar credit - 800 for me, close to that for ndhlp
2. >20% downpayment.
3. 5 years stable work for both of us
4. I'm about to lose all my income
5. ndhlp will certainly find a new job, but hasn't gotten there yet.
6. Almost no debt: only our current mortgage and fairly minimal student loans.
So from what I can see, we have three options:
Stated Income - "er, yes, we make $50k a year" and there ya go. These loans are somewhat more expensive, but not tons. And given our downpayment and credit scores, we should be solid. Though I love how I've been working in economic development, getting people away from predatory lending, and now I'm signing up for sub-prime myself!
Co-Signer - Some lenders are all for it, some aren't. I talked to one lender that requires ALL parties to live in the house, which means a cosigner would only work if that person was going to live with us. At my CU, cosigners can live anywhere, as long as they can deliver the goods.
Rent First - We could rent for a while, allow ndhlp time to get down there, get a job, and then qualify on his income. Oh, that makes me sad. That'd be like 1950.
I have to say, all of this kind of kills me. I'm incredibly proud of the fact that completely on our own steam we managed to buy a first house with no help from the parents. And now, 3 years later with a steady boost in equity and credit standing, I have to go sub-prime, rent, or get one of the parents on board. Good god.