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Whatever comes after the "and" will tell us how the parallelism should work.

For instance:

Tim believes that the Philadelphia 76ers will choke in the first round of the playoffs and devastate a foolishly loyal fanbase.

Here, the thing that comes after the "and" is the verb "devastate." So now my eyes drift to the left in search of another verb that "devastate" could be parallel to. It appears that "devastate" is parallel to "choke." Makes sense. The team will do two things: 1) choke in the playoffs and 2) devastate the fans. Sad, but perfectly logical.

However, I could also write something like this:

Tim believes that the Philadelphia 76ers will choke in the first round of the playoffs and that most of their fans will stop trying to enjoy life.

Now the piece after "and" is a full "that" clause. So when I look to the left, I'm looking for another "that" clause to pair with it. Sure enough, it seems as though Tim believes two things: 1) that the 76ers will choke and 2) that most of their fans will give up on life. Makes sense.

We could keep going. The thing after the "and" could be a noun. Or a prepositional phrase. Or another independent clause. There's no way to know what the author intends beforehand. We have to read the sentence, see what appears after the parallel marker, and then do a bit of detective work to see if we can hunt down that same grammatical component earlier in the sentence.

The takeaway: language is flexible. You need to be too!

For more on parallelism, check out this older live video or this newer parallelism video (and its sequels).

I hope that helps!