[quote="edark"]Hi, Jankynoname –
We moved from the other coast (Boston), and it’s been a tougher transition than I thought it was going to be, actually. The city is great, but it’s been hard for me to be away from my family and the city that I’ve lived in for 5 years. Chicago is a lot bigger, and I miss the smaller town feel of Boston . I had a pretty tough time finding a job, but I got on the search pretty early (I applied for jobs in July and started working at the end of September). I was lucky, though; many of the other partners don’t have jobs yet or JUST got jobs. The toughest thing has really been having a full-time job while my husband is a student! Both financially and just as a mind-set thing, it’s been tough.
We had hoped for Wharton, too…I’m not a huge fan of Philly, but it would have been closer to “home.” That didn’t pan out for us, either, though.
So, we do know of at least one guy who flies home to Boston for 4 day weekends almost every week. It definitely is a possibility, but I caution against using that as a safety net. For one thing, at least with this friend, I feel as though he is picking classes solely based on schedule and NOT based on what classes he wants to take. You’re spending a fortune and putting your life on hold to come here – make the most of it!! Especially as a first year, it’s hard to get the classes you want during the times you want (last term, my husband had to take 2 classes on Friday – one at 8:30am and one at 1:30pm – NOT ideal). Do you know about the bidding/point system here? It makes getting your schedule every term very stressful and you very often don’t get the classes/times you want. Plus, at least the first couple of terms, there are all of these events that you have to go to on the weekends….this business school thing is a full-time commitment.
I knew I was going to move with him wherever he went (he only applied to places we discussed: Harvard, Wharton, Booth), and it was still hard. I’m feeling much more settled now, but it’s tough! The other wives/girlfriends have been a lifesaver, though. We see each other often and are very supportive of one another.
Check out my blog (listed in my profile). I just started it, but it’s basically about being a wife/partner at business school/Booth/Chicago.
Good luck, and feel free to ask anything else!![/quote]
Thanks. I was wondering if you wrote that blog. I actually stumbled on it a couple days ago and sent it to my wife. Keep it up - I def think it's an important topic. I completely agree with you on the class bidding thing. I would hate to have to settle for classes i'm not as interested in just to accommodate the logistics of flying back and forth. But then again, that's all part of the compromise I guess... seems like small potatoes relative to the importance of actually seeing my wife.
So, how much time do you have with your husband on a typical day? I'm guessing he's pretty busy with clubs/recruiting at Booth. Depending on what jobs you all had pre-MBA maybe it's not that different, but I am wondering realistically how much time can I expect to even have with my wife if she moves out there?