Thank you so much for sharing and speaking up. I know it is tough dealing with parents.
As a parent to children whom I try to motivate and get them to work hard, I can see myself in your parents, telling my kids to change before I would be willing to invest into them.... my expectations of them are high... at the same time, looking back, I am not sure I was an amazing achiever back in the day. My parents were kind to me but very busy at work and hardly had time to figure out what was happening with me. I think they were thankful I did not get into trouble and was low maintenance and actually did OK at school without their daily supervision (my guess their expectations were low).
I think the issue is the expectations that we have as parents or children. Now I need to figure out how to put any of this to work in my own life

P.S. Thank you again for sharing and telling your story. What are your plans this year? Does the story have a happy ending? Maybe?