People ask me how I like the south. I have really one response: I'm in school. I am not in the south. All of us at b-school (especially the ones in smaller locales where the students are more cohesive) will probably agree: your community is your fellow students. I have more Indians in my section than southerners - or something like that.
In addition, the Triangle is pretty mixed. Lots of folks from all over around here.
Finally, what southern stuff there is, I dig it. People are friendly, which makes me think of my midwestern roots. The food is fun. The weather is fabulous.
Cost of living rocks. Our mortgage payment...well, you all would be ill if I told you.
If I were gay or a hard-core city girl, it might be different. There are good restaurants and fun bars and a worthwhile music/arts scene, but it's smaller than NYC - obviously. On the other hand, I'm too damned busy to enjoy off-broadway and too broke for fancy eats. So I'm content. But I am a woman of simple needs. I think Ithaca is paradise.
Does that help?
But really, apply. You might dig it. And the partners here are pretty active, visible and cool. So that's good for the wifey.