Life of a person in his mid 20's
As a pilot test for my future venture, I want to start a movement, #Hear and #BeHeard
If you have any kind of emotional pain that others may not consider significant but you do, I want to provide you an ear to tell your pain to.
So, let's talk for a minute about an Indian male, 25, top of his career, top of his academics
Raised in India,
(Indians don't have enough jobs and the part time jobs are not common in the culture)
The only place he went out was the school and family picnics until the age of 18,
When he used to go to movie theatre on occasion after 18, he was given no money (Economic abuse, a type of Domestic abuse),
He was given the money in a calculated fashion (Rent+ Gas + tiffin service + Requested tracked marginal payment for extra expenses out of these three),
Never was allowed to watch WWE, RAW, Dragonball Z, the tv cartoons or shows had to be preapproved from his parents (Emotional abuse)
Got no friends for the following reasons- More sophisticated than others, More different than others, Different ways to talk given the shows he watched, different and non-relatable quotes and cherry on top- class topper (kids get jealous of the teacher's favorite)
OOOOH and the most important one, got beaten with belts, filled glass water bottles, hands and legs obviously, sticks and everything else that came into the parents' hands if he broke a rule (OH yeah! there were rules)
In his 20s, finally discovers the world and sees what he missed, gets depressed on why no one likes him (something that started with the regulation on money and tv), realises that he has wasted ton of years over nothing, gets used by people and is just struggling with his thoughts.
So what went wrong here?
There are women claiming domestic abuse but the truth is this man has seen all three kinds of them- physical, economic, emotional.
One day he is pushed to the degree that he opens up after 25 long years, highlighting his pain and agony and issues of missing out, guess what he gets in return- Dismissiveness, disregard, and utter disrespect in return from the people he took support from.
"You are a man", they said.
There are no NGOs in India that cover the entire spectrum of human emotions. Parents have been so caught up in protecting their child that they forget that the protection has turned into prison.
In NLP, I learnt that the values shape from the choices we make, in teenage and adult age, those choices are shaped by people you meet and in childhood, those choices are shaped by the family.
If a person such as the one I described, never got to socialise and never got to play with friends, he has never had a chance to become a healthy adult.
I have observed cases where people are killing themselves for this very reason. Yes, people argue that the world is big. But the thing is our world is as small as people around us.
Thus today, as a pilot test for my future venture, I want to start a movement, #Hear and #BeHeard
If you have any kind of emotional pain that others may not consider significant but you do, I want to provide you an ear to tell your pain to.
You are not alone.
bb workout Could we do something in this regard? I have long lived in a world of abuse and I want people to know that they are not alone. I want to help. Please lend your support.