Ok, now this may not be right, especially the third thing.
First, XYZ=36=2*2*3*3
Six posibilities: 1,2,18 (21); 1,3, 12(16); 1, 4, 9(14); 1, 6, 6(13); 2,2, 9(13); 2,3, 6(11)
Second, it's the same with my next door neighbor
Only 1,6,6, and 2,2,9 produce the same sum, so that he won't tell what combination it is
Third, my eldest daughter is ...
If it is 1,6,6, there would be two eldest daughters
So it must be 2,2,9
Although we know we can still tell who's older and who's younger even if they are twins. So I may be totally wrong.