souvik101990 wrote:
To be honest with you, I like your approach and your husband’s experience last year, but frankly we are not in the same boat.
For example, the uncertainty is really varied for different people and I am not sure if being positive is the best way or the healthiest way to look at things. I am my most productive when I constantly doubt myself and my insecurities help me improve the quality of the work I produce.
I don’t think pessimism is a bad thing (neither do a lot of people, for example Stockdale’s paradox), and it is humbling that even after getting rejected everywhere last year, my failure helped me improve my GMAT score, get a promotion and get up to reapply and then some this year.
As for the forums, it’s much more than just anxiety. I like being in the same room as other people going through the same thing and to be really honest, there is fun in waiting for doom to happen all together. If you were in the HBS chat earlier this week you’d know what I mean.
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Thank you for sharing your view. I agree with all your points! I would like you to know that I am the pessimistic/stressed out/jaded one in our relationship and am shocked at his positivity sometimes! I think pessimism/pressure/stress has its place. And I agree with you, there's a certain camaraderie in the anxiety.
For what it's worth, my pessimism and stress have definitely propelled me forward in both my career and applications (nothing like a deadline to get things done).
So your points are all valid! BUT my point remains which is that the applications are over, so other than interview prep, there's nothing to be gained. You've submitted now is time to take a break from beating yourself up and putting yourself under all that pressure! Life is for living, go and have some fun with it!
Also. Your comment "I am not sure if being positive is the best way or the healthiest way to look at things" is completely different to my world view right now. So we are going to have to agree to disagree on that one.
Btw - I used to think the exact same as you but my husband has changed my mind. Life is so much easier when you approach it with calm and positivity, and you can be just as or EVEN MORE successful with a positive mindset. Take my husband as an example, he got into the top business schools! The best example that comes to mind was when we were studying GMAT. He would come home excited about this new maths thing he learnt and I would get SO ANNOYED with him because I hated GMAT and had to pressure myself/stress myself to study. I ended up with 720 and he got 770. I think his score was in part due to his positive approach to studying GMAT (like, he actually convinced himself to enjoy it). Maybe if I had done the same, I would have gotten a better score. I'm
Just not that positive though!
Ultimately, this is just a fairly anonymous forum. And these are my personal thoughts on the matter. At the end of the day, you have your life and I have mine. I genuinely wish you all the best as a reapplicant! <3
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